Relationship advice

Thanks Aegis. We can chat on FB sometime. Nice farm by the way. 

Maybe a little humor will help your situation

look what you missed out on you should be happy
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oyqe8n-pbqQ


just kidden  they all don't turn out like that

there's always somebody worse off your not along

it's impossible for any of us to tell you exactly what to do but i got an idea tell her what you pretty much said in your post are show her the post
and you two talk it out

don't rush into a dicision make sure what you are doing feels right

[CH Queen]

First of all I'm so sorry, I didn't see this thread earlier, just saw it.

While reading your post I felt that you are already doing the best that you could have done in this situation, You are going to college,  you've started a band, are meeting new people and most importantly are dating someone. I'm not suggesting that dating again after a breakup is the most important thing to do but it is defiantly important to go out with someone new after a period of time, and most importantly going out with the right person. And here also you seem to have done what's best, You are dating a person who loves you even though you have clearly told her how you feel and what your situation is, She knows exactly what you have gone through and still she wants to be with you, that's good for you. It's better to be with a person who loves you then to be with someone whom you love. Luckily you like her a lot too (you should have felt guilty if you were being with her just for the sake of being with someone, but as you said you like her a lot too so there's absolutely no need to feel guilty).
And please never think that you're being selfish for being with someone who makes you feel good about yourself.   Roy Croft once said “I love you, not only for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you.”  We all love to be loved.
For now take your time, I'd say be with her, and as time passes things will become clearer.

And Patio, just because you don't have a girlfriend doesn't mean that you are allowed to give bad advice  

[Moderator]

I saw nothing bad in my advice...and you're making assumptions.

Thanks Ivy. I've always valued your advice whether it's been to me or someone else. I agree with what you say, but sometimes it's easy to get confused, especially when dealing with emotions etc. I think I just needed to hear someone say it (or write it), but i'm going to tread carefully and take my time and hope that this time it all goes well.

Anyway, onwards and upwards

Thanks for your time Ivy

and thanks Aegis

[Global Moderator]

(I'd love to hear Ivy's, she always gives sound advice)

Without a doubt.

[CH Queen]

I saw nothing bad in my advice...and you're making assumptions.

Patio, I was joking!!!! I was teasing you!! Please say that you did not take what I said seriously!! I said that cause I already know that you have a girlfriend. My goodness!! I was being funny....guess I should give up on humour!!
oww sorry , I could never seriously say anything like that to you!!

Reddevilggg You are most welcome, do tell me how things went in time.
Best of my wishes are with you.

And Carby.......look out for the face behind the fence....

There was a song in the mid-1960's written by Randy Sparks.  As a young man, I didn't understand it -- I thought the song advocated irresponsibility.  Now that I'm older, I better appreciate the message.


Today, while the blossoms still cling to the vine
I’ll taste your strawberries, I’ll drink your sweet wine
A million tomorrows shall all pass away
‘Ere I forget all the joy that is mine, Today

I’ll be a dandy, and I’ll be a rover
You’ll know who I am by the songs that I sing
I’ll feast at your table, I’ll sleep in your clover
Who cares what tomorrow shall bring

I can’t be contented with yesterday’s glory
I can’t live on promises winter to spring
Today is my moment, now is my story
I’ll laugh and I’ll cry and I’ll sing

Today, while the blossoms still cling to the vine
I’ll taste your strawberries, I’ll drink your sweet wine
A million tomorrows shall all pass away
‘Ere I forget all the joy that is mine, Today

Words and Music by Randy Sparks

Oh God, Now my ex has sent me a e-mail (we have had no contact for about a month and the last contact we had wasn't to pleasant) and she wants to know that if we 'bump' into each other that we can speak and 'go for a coffee'. She asks this while still posting derogatory remarks about me on other forums (using her real name and picture as avatar).

Why can't she just go away. I don't know what to do. Life has thrown me another curved ball.

My girlfriend is in America at the moment. San Francisco to be exact and i'm wondering whether i should send her a copy of the mail to see what she thinks. 

naw. personally, i think it'd be a good idea to jus tell your ex that you've moved on. Moved past the bitter swills of your previous relationship and decided to turn a fresh page. 

oh and ...

And Carby.......look out for

aha...ahaha....ahahahahahAHAHAHAHAHAHAH AHAAAAAAAAAAA. 

[Global Moderator]

oh and ...

And Carby.......look out for

aha...ahaha....ahahahahahAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAAAAAAAAAA. 

Okay.....I'll see you on msn...... 

My girlfriend is in America at the moment. San Francisco to be exact and i'm wondering whether i should send her a copy of the mail to see what she thinks. 

Don't do this, yet.  I make a general comment about human nature, and nothing specific about anyone involved, that even with a ton of explanation, your current girlfriend might misinterpret the e-mail.

I'm not saying to hide it!  You might tell her verbally, tell her you're concerned, see where it goes.

Your "ex" is trying to have her proverbial cake and eat it, too. 

Oh God, Now my ex has sent me a e-mail (we have had no contact for about a month and the last contact we had wasn't to pleasant) and she wants to know that if we 'bump' into each other that we can speak and 'go for a coffee'. She asks this while still posting derogatory remarks about me on other forums (using her real name and picture as avatar).

Now thats nice  . I suggest to avoid her for the mean time. The fact that you two didnt have a pleasant exchange the last time you talked with each other, seems most likely that it will happen again.

Although you have to close this part/chapter of your life. Just take it slowly. Tell her that you've moved on already. You can try to discuss this with your current girl and see what she thinks about it (in a way that concerned way that is.)

. sorry

Deleted. Not worth it.

The thread, or the post, he wonders...