Here is some information about audio connectors. Phone plugs.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Phone_connector_%28audio%29 The terms phone plug and phone jack are sometimes used to refer to different genders of phone connectors,[5] but are also sometimes used colloquially to refer to RJ11 and older telephone plugs and the corresponding jacks that connect wired telephon
The article has some rough spots,** but the topic is hard to make simple. Audio connector standars have changed with the evolution of Personal Computrs. The type called TRRS is now standard for microphones and headsets. But not universal.
Here is photo on TRRS.
Adding Bluetooth to the setup makes things even more complicated. A Bluetooth headset should have both microphone ans stereo earphones.
Myself, I think you are asking for too much. IMO, you should go all the way with the Bluetooth and not try to use the 3.5 jackandplug set.
But I am sometimes wrong. Maybe somebody else knows the answer. 
** End Note: The article is reall good. But the suject is hard to explain because many people colloquially refere to the jack and plug as if they were the same, or part of a set. Thus specific terminology has to be used to explain the variations in design.
