I got my email working, seems like my spam blocker was causing problems. It was changing the incoming server to a router ip address or something like that.
As far as I know, I have all the windows updates except for the service pack 1. I forget what day this all started, but I did notice that all of a sudden about the time this all started, in the event viewer, I get information events from a source "service control manager". Can you tell me what I should look for. I have no idea what i'm doing.