I'm glad you are willing to heed Allans heads up...i couldn't agree more with his assessment...
As to how to handle Windows Updates...here is how i do it.
I set it to never auto-update but to send notifications and ask...
I then peruse the list copy it to a notepad file and place it on the desktop.
Then i usually wait at least 2 to 3 weeks...while doing my Forum work and check at all Forums i volunteer on and see if anyone has any issues related to a specific update...if no issues after 3 weeks i go ahead and install them manually.
Beats having the headache of a sour update...it's happened in the past.