I don't know, why some people seems to be kind of allergic to Vista. Maybe because it's new, so it's a good time for bashing. I can even see some people, who even never used Vista, but they already know.
It's normal, that new OSes use, and will use more, and more resources. Better get used to it, or you can always go back to Win 3.1.
I have 2gig of RAM (+ 6gig of VM ). Right now, I have about 15 background applications running, plus Firefox, and Thunderbird open.
Total RAM used at this moment is 1.1GB (+ barely any VM part).
I see nothing wrong with it. Everything works perfectly fine.