This sounds very similar to a problem that I am having with my Dell desktop.
Both Allan and Superdave have made suggestions to me about how to tell what processes are consuming all the CPU and or memory use and making it slow to get into Windows and programs thereafter.
Perhaps there might be some useful information
hereAlternately you can use the Ctrl Alt Del ( press all three at the same time, you need two hands to do this unless you have very long fingers) to bring up a "Windows Security' screen. Select the "Task manager" icon. It will bring up the Task Manager box.
Then select in the top row "Processes", from there you can see what processes are running on your computer. There is also a selection for "Performance". This will give you an idea of how hard your computer is working.
It sounds like there is a program running in the background that is stealing all the memory available.
If you go to "Control panel" and open "System" click on that and select "Hardware" in the system properties box that comes up. You will see in the top area "Device Manager", click on that. This will open another box that shows all your computers components. Check in the left hand column whether you see any yellow warning icons.
You can also click on the plus signs to open each of the titles to see if there is a yellow triangle with an exclamation mark in it. These warning signs mean there is a problem with this item.