My wife says I talk to myself, lol, so here I go again! Looks like both problems were solved by getting the right graphics driver installed. The Device Manager said the Display Adaptor driver was up to date but I made it search in the driver folders I had copied/pasted onto my external HD. Windows found and installed. After restart, the sleep option was there and I could properly size icons and dialog boxes. I found the solution simply by googling. Turns out these are very common problems.
Now, what should I do with the copied/pasted driver folders? Think I will rename them and copy them in the System32 folder. That way the previously installed drivers will be available if I need them. I think I have to rename them because apparently you can not overwrite or merge system files, right?